3 Things I’m Learning From 3 Years of Marriage

Just like life, marriage is a never-ending growing process. It is a humbling journey, making me a better person every day. In order to become a better person, though, it’s necessary to have the difficult conversations and hand over our flaws to God.

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In honor of Duncan and I celebrating our third wedding anniversary last week, I wanted to share 3 things I’ve been learning throughout our marriage the past 3 years (and I’m sure I’ll continue to learn and have to grow in).

  1. Expectations are so dangerous. I can’t tell you how often I’ve built up expectations in my mind and failed to communicate them to Duncan. Every single time it has led to frustration and disappointment, both of which were totally avoidable had I simply communicated. I can’t reiterate the importance of communication enough in any relationship, especially marriage.
  2. It is critical to humble ourselves and admit when we are wrong. I have a super hard time with this, because I hate being told I’m wrong… in school I never once missed turning in an assignment and never turned in an assignment or test with a blank space, because I did not want to leave any room for a teacher to get onto me. I got the best grades I possibly could, because I didn’t want to get a single question wrong. Yes, it is important to work our hardest on everything we do, but it becomes a problem when our motives aren’t right. And this has played into my marriage, in the form of me having trouble simply admitting when I am wrong and not wanting to apologize. God has been using Duncan, though, to open my eyes to the value of correction. We’re never going to grow without being stretched, corrected, and humbled.
  3. Live in the now, but never stop dreaming together. Happiness is something you have to choose NOW (not, “Things will be so much better in 3 years when my husband is finished with school,” or “We’ll be so much happier when we live in our dream location”). This is something I fall prey to, but life is so, so much better when we choose happiness now. With that being said, it’s crucial to never stop dreaming, either. Some of my favorite conversations with Duncan are about our top 3 destinations we’d want to live, where our current dream vacation would be, how many children we want to have, etc. It is the best being married to someone who challenges you to be happy (truly joyful) now, but who is also willing to dream big with you.

Thank you, Dunc, for 3 wonderful year of companionship, teamwork, and growing together!

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Always and forever,

Alex

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Being an Intentional Mom

Becoming a mom is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Period. It is humbling, unleashes a whole new love you didn’t realize existed, and makes you realize how quickly time goes by.

My mom has always been so good about being intentional with me and with her time in general. She makes me feel like the most important person in the world when I am talking to her. I think technology and social media have value, but one of the things I’ve always appreciated most about my mom (especially looking back) is how she never whips out her phone or makes me feel like second priority; when she is with someone, she is genuinely all there and fully present.

That’s been one of the biggest things for me lately- realizing, even though Lively is only seven months old, she’s going to notice and remember how present or absent I am with her. I don’t want to be the mom who is constantly on my phone, who’s prioritizing social media over the people who are right in front of me… I want Lively to know how valued she is and how she is 100% worth my time. I want to show her the beauty in being present and be that living example for her, because it’s true that actions speak louder than words.

Time is fleeting, but I at least want to be able to look back and say I lived in the moment every step of my life and did everything I could to love my children to the best of my ability (not that perfection is attainable, but that I work towards becoming a better wife, mother, and person every single day). It’s an area I’m trying to work on and have been asking Duncan to keep me accountable in 😉 It’s humbling to realize I’ll never be the perfect mom, but I can keep bettering myself and praying for the areas I’m lacking, knowing God will grow me and fill in the gaps.

With Mother’s Day coming up, I’ve been thinking an extra lot about all things motherhood and about how grateful I am for my own mom. If you’re like me, you probably feel like you can never repay your mom for all she’s done, but if you’re looking for a unique Mother’s Day gift for your amazing mom, Jord Wood Watches has some beautiful  women’s watches (and men’s watches) that you can even get as an engraved gift for your mom (engraving is FREE now through Mother’s Day).

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I have this Zebrawood and Navy Frankie Series watch and love it (featured in these photos). It is such a cool watch and goes with everything!

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Annndddddd one of the most exciting parts of all of this… you can enter to win a GIVEAWAY for a *$100 gift code to use on the Jord site*! All you have to do is go to this link and enter your name and e-mail address (super easy 🙂 ).The contest will close May 21st, with one lucky person winning the $100 gift code, and everyone else who enters receiving a $25 gift code.

*The contest will close on May 21st at 11:59 p.m. and gift codes will expire June 30th, 2017*

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Make sure to make your moms feel extra loved and appreciated this Mother’s Day. And Happy Mother’s Day to all you new mommies out there!

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Always and forever,

Alex